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WISDOM WITHIN - January 2016 - Kansas City
Finding Samadhi by Remembering the Love
By Suzette Scholtes
Can you in this moment remember a feeling of great love? Most of us look for those peak experiences. Some find this easy. Others find it difficult.
A few of my great memories include romance, of course, but others are moments of connection to heart and soul. They stand out. When I remember them it’s like music playing in my heart. Remembering the love supercedes our fears, which are prevalent now. This is a fabulous habit to cultivate and maybe key to our success in 2017.
Decades ago now, my friend, Karen, and I traveled to Chicago for my first immersion in a meditation workshop. She said to wrap light around myself and carry a grounding crystal. When the leader opened, tears filled my eyes and I began to cry. “Oh, sometimes we cry,” he said, “when we cannot integrate fast enough.” I found my path, my purpose. I found my way home.
Most of our readers find our way to our own truths and soul’s purpose. Sometimes we tumble. How do we know our true path? We all keep searching. Most of us wish to feel “fulfilled.”
To remember the love we are in our way discovering our “true self.” The true self involves many great virtues but most important it involves the relationship between our soul, our spirit, and our connection to Divine love.
To know we are loved without condition—flaws and all---is called “Samadhi” in yoga. I find to teach this, explain this and/or to explore this is difficult. It is abstract. It is art not science. Writers in this magazine speak much about how gratitude and appreciation open the doors to feel this connection of support to the “big’ love.
One question I pose: think about how valuable you truly are. I ask how many of your family and circles of friends and colleague count on you? You matter to them so much! This helps us raise our esteem, helps us put up boundaries when needed, and begins to increase our self-love and self-value.
Other virtues come into play: courage, loyalty, authority, service, humility, generosity, truth, courtesy, honor, honesty, dignity, trust, and (of course) love.
Sharing lunch with a young lady, she seemed a bit shy and I wished to get to know her better to meet her needs in the classroom. I did not talk. I let her talk. She opened up like a window to the sun. She talked of her challenges with depression and anxiety. She talked of her work, her dreams and her family.
“Can you remember the love?” I asked? “Yes, she replies. “My boyfriend calls me glitter-bug.” Glitter was on her forehead and in her hair from the work she did sorting greeting cards as part of her job.
There are keys to remembering the love:
Integrity: Be moment to moment responsible for your choices, feelings, and promises to others and to yourself.
Respect: Deepen your self-respect and respect for all others. Respect is part of love.
Soul: Connect to your soul which is the part of you who has never forgotten your alignment to the great love.
Forgive: Forgive self first. We all make mistakes and they are forgivable. Forgive others when good and ready to do so. So important to take yourself off the hook.
For me so many memories of great love: Mom was in the hospital and I went with Dad to visit her. She began to cry as we put on our coats to leave. “Now, now, Mary,” he said. “Our vows are for better or worse. Count on me.”
I’ll never forget that moment. I felt the “great love.”
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Suzette Scholtes’ non-fiction writing won the prestigious “Writers Digest” award. Her passions are writing and yoga and she feels one needs a sense of humor for both. She founded The Yoga School of Therapeutics where she manages one of the regions prestige teacher training programs. 10400 W. 103rd Street,