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WISDOM WITHIN - November 2018 

Can You Trust These Words? “I Love You”


By Suzette Scholtes


I wrote about this topic a few years back, but it became so popular I will share again with a few newer insights. It’s about the great Hawaiian healer “Ho’oponopono.

The story goes that authorities placed the most hardened criminals off  to the side of the big island. They were the worse-of-the-worse: psychotic, criminally-insane, and considered hopeless humans for their horrific deeds of murder, torture and violence.

Every prison guard assigned to these men could not tolerate being in the prison with them for more than a few days.  The warden noticed that one young guard did not quit. He asked why. The guard knew the great Khuhana who had offered to help these men.

The warden sought out the Khuhana who asked for photos of the 30 or so men. Each day for 30 days, sometimes twice, he looked at each photo and repeated the mantra: “I love you. I’m sorry.  Please forgive me. May all good come to you. I bless you. Thank you.”

As the story goes, each of the hardened criminals rehabilitated. They moved back into society, functioning as contributing and responsible citizens.

It is my new mantra: “I Love You. I’m Sorry.  Please Forgive me. May all good come to you. Thank you.”

In my word, love makes love safe.  Love means I consciously will NOT hurt you with my words, deeds, or actions. Love is responsible, vulnerable, trusting, caring, sharing while giving “respect” to the other. It vibrates at the highest level of human emotion thus is the most powerful force on Earth.

This “saying” or “tune” or energy comes from the Hooponopono Hawaiian art which says we prosper by taking 100% responsibility for ourselves. That includes our success, opportunities, happiness, sadness, anxiety, ego, manipulations, control issues, addictions, and problems or challenges. 

The name ho'oponopono is the mantra; "I love you, I'm sorry, please forgive me; may all good flow to you. Thank you." By saying this in a sincere way many times to those who have hurt or upset you, you clear memories. If challenged--say $$ flow worries--say to yourself: "I accept responsibility for having limited money. There is something inside me causing this challenge.” To your own heart, mind, and spirit direct: “I am sorry, I love you, and (Yes you are loving self now raising your esteem & value) please forgive me. All good now flows to me. Thank you." Repeat again and again to clear memories or feelings which may restrict the flow of prosperity. Or clear anything: old hurts, relationships, health, grief, anxiety, and fear. 


The four steps:

Step 1: Repentance–I’M SORRY

You are responsible for everything in your mind, even if it seems to be “out there.” Once you realize that, it’s very natural to feel sorry. I know I sure do. This realization can be painful, and you will likely resist accepting responsibility for the “out there” kind of problems until you start to practice this method on your more obvious “in here” problems and see results. So choose something that you already know you’ve caused for yourself? Over-weight? Addicted to nicotine, alcohol, or some other substance? Do you have anger issues? Health problems? Start there and say you’re sorry. That’s the whole step: I’M SORRY. Although I think it is more powerful if you say it more clearly: “I realize that I am responsible for the (issue) in my life, and I feel terrible remorse that something in my consciousness has caused this.”


Step 2: Ask Forgiveness— PLEASE FORGIVE ME 

Don’t worry about who you’re asking. Just ask! PLEASE FORGIVE ME. Say it over and over. Mean it. Remember your remorse from step 1 as you ask to be forgiven.


Step 3: Gratitude—THANK YOU

Say “THANK YOU” again.  It doesn’t really matter whom or what you’re thanking. Thank your body for all it does for you. Thank yourself for being the best you can be. Thank God. Thank the Universe. Thank whatever it was that just forgave you. Just keep saying THANK YOU.


Step 4: Love—I LOVE YOU 

Say I LOVE YOU. Say it to your body, say it to God. Say I LOVE YOU to the air you breathe, to the house that shelters you. Say I LOVE YOU to your challenges. Say it over and over. Mean it. Feel it. There is nothing as powerful as Love.

That’s it. The whole practice in a nutshell. Simple and amazingly effective.


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Suzette Scholtes’ non-fiction writing won the prestigious “Writers Digest” award. Her passions are writing and yoga and she feels one needs a sense of humor for both. She founded The Yoga School of Therapeutics where she manages one of the regions prestige teacher training programs. 10400 W. 103rd Street,

Overland Park. 



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